In the past year, I have had multiple calls from people asking if 'so and so' is going to make them happy, asking when they will find happiness or asking when they will be rich and then they'll be happy. I am addressing this issue today as it has been weighing heavily on my heart. I hear from so many that are stuck in a dark place thinking that only another person, a soul mate, a financial gain, a new job, a new house, or a friend is going to bring them happiness (or in their words 'make me happy".
As per the Dalai Lama who I respect and admire, 'Happiness is not something read made. It comes from your own actions." Take a moment to reflect on that statement. It is the simple truth and yet so many have a difficult time relating to the simplicity of it. We have been brought up in a world to think that happiness is only achieved through outside sources and it is the furthest thing from the truth.
You and I are each responsible for our own happiness. That is a rough statement for so many to comprehend. How can that be? I have nothing. I am alone. I do not have a job. I do not have money in my bank account. I do not have a soul mate to love me. The answer is very simple. No one else is responsible for your life or your happiness. You are not an infant or a child. You are an adult. You are the sole creator of whether or hot you choose to be happy or miserable.
How often do you laugh? One of the simplest cures that will raise your inner happy vibration is to laugh. Think of a joke, watch a funny sitcom or movie. Watch a You-Tube video (search funny videos - there are thousands of them). Find your own thing that makes you chuckle or belly roll with laughter and watch how you are lifted afterwards. Your spirit will life, your energy level will life and you will almost have a sense of peace.
Everyone has a story. Challenge it. Your story is only one person's perspective of the truth. Are you telling an exaggerated story that grows more depressing or disheartening every time it comes from your lips? Change it. " I was abused however now I can laugh and know that I have grown from the abuse I suffered and I will never let another control me again. " And then release the 'I was abused" part of that statement and switch your story up to "I can laugh at life and all the challenges I have in front of me. I am strong, I am fun loving towards myself and all is well."
Enjoy the journey that you are on. Do not worry about the destination at this time. Stop saying "When I find my soulmate, I will be happy." "When I get my dream home, I will be happy." Change this part of your journey to "I am happy and I will continue to be happy and enjoy the journey I am on. When I achieve each step, I will know I have done it with a joyful heart and relish every step on my path."
Take time to enjoy yourself. Take "ME" time every day. How many of you put yourself last in your life? Start to look at how you can be kinder and gentler to yourself. See yourself as valuable and others will see that as well. See yourself as truly happy with who you are and know that this is only one day of a journey with many twists and turns, so care for yourself, love yourself and make yourself a priority. No one else will see you this way until you do. "Me" time is imperative to a happy, healthy life. If you cannot find a few minutes a day for you, it's time to seriously re-evaluate where you are and what is occupying your time.
Make every relationship in your life count. There are several areas that relationships are important. The relationship with yourself must always be on the highest level of joy, love and respect. Your relationship with God (Source, Universe) is important as well. Talk to your Higher Source, your angels and spirit guides as if you are talking with a friend. Laugh, dance and feel joy and love from them as that is what they bring to your life. Remember how can others like you if you don't like yourself? Make the relationships with your friends, children, spouse, significant other, parents, etc. - make them count. That means don't try to shut everyone out. If you have to be the one to open the doors here, step forward and open them. Bring laughter into your relationships and remember, you cannot be fruitful by yourself. There is always someone else that would benefit from sharing your journey with you.
Balance your life. If you work hard - play hard. However remember to be careful here. Everything in life is not serious every day. If it feels this way, it is because you are allowing it to become that way. If you do not balance work and play, you lose a piece of yourself. It is important that you view yourself as important. You matter and it is time for you to recognize that.
You alone are the creator of your own happiness. When others are happy around you, that is a bonus however do not depend on anyone else to bring this aspect of life to you. As the Dalai Lama said "Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions."
Decide today, "I will be happy today." Do not worry about tomorrow as you are to live in the moment. Look at life as if you are riding in a car. You have a rear view mirror and a windshield. The rear view mirror is very small in comparison to the windshield. That is because what is behind you matters very little, however what is right in front of you, that is your destiny. It is important. Look at your life moving forward and just give the odd glace in the rear view. Smile at the fun or happy memories. Let the others slide. Decide today, to make new joyful memories. Just smile and then laugh out loud. That is where you will find your peace.
Soaring Free Spiritual Healing Centre